Monday, October 25, 2010
NeNe Leakes admits she's something of a perfectionist.
And now, the Real Housewives of Atlanta star is opening up in the new issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands now, about the lengths to which she's gone for perfection.
"I'm very comfortable and confident in myself. I just wanted a tune up," says Leakes, 42, admitting that in April she got a nose job, smaller breast implants and a lift, as well as liposuction around her waist for contouring.
But Leakes says she didn't want a total transformation. "I still wanted to look like NeNe, the black woman that I am," she says, "but a better version."
Leakes's visit to the plastic surgeon will air on Monday's episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta.
Gym, tan ... Goofy? Jersey Shore star Paul "DJ Pauly D" Delvecchio teaches Disney's dapper dog how to fist-pump Friday during a visit to the Magic Kingdom in Lake Buena Vista, Fla. The show returns for a third season in January.
"Painfully shy" Lady Gaga leaves her London hotel in a gauzy blush-pink confection with black piping, dip-dyed tresses, kooky optics and gravity-defying platforms on Friday.
Madonna makes her way through New York's JFK International Airport with her two little ones, Mercy, 4, and David, 5, Sunday night for a trip back to the States.
This Housewife's got a need for speed! Eva Longoria Parker revs up the crowd at Saturday's Rally for Kids with Cancer Scavenger Cup brunch at the Hollywood Roosevelt Hotel.
Goodbye, fishnets and ripped jeans — hello Valentino gowns! In Touch gave Jersey Shore’s Jenni “JWoww” Farley a head-to-toe makeover — and the transformation was stunning. “I feel like a little princess,” gushed the reality star. With help from celebrity stylist Robert Verdi, makeup artist Leonora and Garren New York hairstylist Patrick Ferrara, the feisty brunette could now pass for a Hollywood It Girl. Check out In Touch’s exclusive photos here.
Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey had managed to avoid an uncomfortable run-in since their split in 2005 — until last night in LA! Jessica — who dined with boyfriend Eric Johnson, mom Tina and a small group of pals at the Red O Restaurant — was blindsided when she realized ex-husband Nick Lachey and his girlfriend, Vanessa Minnillo, were just tables away, flaunting their affections.
A fellow diner tells In Touch the exclusive details of the star's nightmarish run-in with her ex. "They came in just minutes apart, and Jessica was told shortly after that Nick was there, too,” the eyewitness says. Jessica was dressed comfortably and wearing no makeup for what was supposed to be a relaxed dinner with her closest pals. "She had a good time with her pals, but Jessica was definitely uncomfortable knowing he was there."
Just tables away, Nick and Vanessa were sharing a bottle of red wine. While the former couple did not interact, "Vanessa must have gotten jealous,” the eyewitness speculates. “Vanessa was rubbing Nick's back, kissing his neck and ear, and running her fingers through his hair.”
The October 21 incident was only days before Jessica and Nick’s wedding anniversary — they'd tied the knot on October 26, 2002 — and despite three years of marriage, the pair didn’t make any extra efforts that evening to bury the hatchet.
But according to a source, Tina waited for Jessica to leave the restaurant and spoke briefly with her former son-in-law. "She walked up to his table and said hello," says the source. "It was friendly. He was part of her family for years.”
Actions spoke louder than words this weekend as Halle Berry stepped out onto the red carpet holding hands with actor Olivier Martinez.
The actress, 44, sizzled in a floor-length red gown, while Martinez, also 44, chose a black suit jacket and pants. This was the first public appearance for the couple, who made their way down the red carpet at the Carousel of Hope Ball benefiting the Barbara Davis center for childhood diabetes at the Beverly Hilton Hotel.
Earlier this year, Berry announced her split from Gabriel Aubry after being together for four years. The two have a 2-year-old girl together named Nahla.
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
It's very important to know exactly the type of partner you are searching for. If you don't, how will you know when you've found him/her? In Chapter 3 of Love Smart: Find the One You Want, Fix the One You Got, Dr. Phil walks you through the process of figuring out who your perfect match is. To get started, consider the following:
Who, exactly, precisely, specifically, do you consider to be a quality guy? Figuring this out now doesn't mean that you shouldn't be fluid and open to change, but it helps to at least start with some objective in mind. It's time to set some standards and start learning to reject those guys who fall far below the bar.
First, assume for a moment that you have found somebody who rings your bell, lights your fire and gets your motor running — all at the same time. How do you feel, knowing that this person is head-over-heels in love with you? Are you feeling a sense of belonging? A sense of acceptance? Are you feeling lucky, blessed and proud of yourself and of your partner? Do you feel peace, joy, security? Do you feel you have finally found your place in this world through this person with whom you are going to share your life?
Those feelings are your real goal. So why go through the process of developing the Character of Him? Because those are the traits and qualities likely to create the feelings described above. So, while it's important that you have a wish list, it's equally important to remember that you're actually looking for the character that will give you the feeling.
Dr. Phil reminds women not to let themselves be seduced by a man's good looks. Your perfect match has to make you feel the way you want to feel. Physical attributes that seem so important in the beginning become superficial. Height, weight, hair color, job and all those sorts of things that may have attracted you to him initially and made your chest swell with pride when you walk into a party together will be at the bottom of the list describing the Character of Him. That's because what you are looking for is the experience of you. And the things that will create this for you will be his values, personality style and interaction style, and the way he helps you to feel.
Dr. Phil cautions: The 100 percent candidate doesn't exist. Instead of wasting time searching for an exact match, look for the guy who is free of the deal-breakers and has 80 percent of what you do want in a partner. The other 20 percent you can grow. If the guy has 80 percent of what you want and potential to grow the extra 20 percent, you have found your match. Remember, life is a compromise. Relationships are a compromise.
To figure out the kind of guy you want, go through the following five lists and check off everything that you can imagine as a desirable trait in your special someone. Don't worry if your wish list seems too long. Check as many items in each category as you desire. Think about you, your life and your potential targets as you go. Which qualities would get you all hot and bothered? Which ones will make your life easier? And which ones have you been looking for all along?
Fashion Faceoff:The Gossip Girl star slipped into character as Serena van der Woodsen in her Carolina Herrera gown, while the real estate tycoon donned her blue chiffon stunner for an Elton Johns AIDS foundation event in N.Y.C.
Now here's an afterschool special worth watching! The dad-on-the-go picks up his kids – Oscar, 10, and Ava, 5 – from school for a midtown playdate with actor pal Vincent D'Onofrio and his sons. SEXY
When 15-year-old Jewel Ciera Washington appeared on Tyra Banks's talk show in October 2009 as a self-proclaimed "sex-addict," no one was more shocked than her mother Beverly McClendon.
McClendon filed a $1 million lawsuit against Banks, 36, alleging negligence and violating a right of privacy. The lawsuit claims the mom never consented to have her daughter appear on the show. In fact, she says her daughter hasn't even been diagnosed as a sex-addict.
Stating McClendon "suffered damages as a result of the defendants' negligence," the court papers, filed Oct. 8, also allege the Atlanta-based mother "filed a missing person's report with the local police department" once she realized her daughter secretly fled her home.
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Spending the past week at the Viceroy Anguilla in the Caribbean with baby Louis and other family – including her sister and brother-in-law – Bullock and her group took the time to get massages, drink tropical cocktails, play in the pool and even take a jaunt to a nearby private island.
The family had a blast, a source tells PEOPLE. "The group looked very festive at dinner, laughing and toasting over a long meal and Sandra in particular looked relaxed," says the source.
Though Mark-Paul Gosselaar recently separated from Lisa Ann Russell, 38, his wife of 14 years, he isn’t letting it affect his job as a devoted dad to his son Michael, 6, and daughter Ava, 4. Mark-Paul makes being dad his No. 1 priority and he’s making a point to mark every milestone and make sure his kids don’t miss out on anything — including visits from the tooth fairy! Mark-Paul exclusively told In Touch at the EMA Awards in Los Angeles, “The kids’ teeth are flying out and I am busy being the tooth fairy!” But Mark-Paul, 36, isn’t letting the tooth fairy spoil his kids, telling In Touch, “The tooth fairy gives them quarters for every tooth they’ve lost. We’re up to three, so that’s 75 cents.” Mark-Paul tells In Touch that he hasn’t made a playdate with his old Bayside High classmates Mario Lopez and Tiffani Thiessen, but hopefully a class reunion soon will be in the works!
Has Katy Perry gotten camera shy before her big day?
The singer and beau Russell Brand were snapped by the paps as they touched down in Japiur, India, where they are reportedly wedding this weekend.
While Russell is clearly visible -- carting his own luggage through Mumbai's Chhatrapati Shivaji International Airport -- Katy appears to have thrown a jacket over her head.
Perhaps she's hiding her pretty face in preparation to wear a veil at her upcoming nuptials? Whatever the reason, he style pokes through as her knee-high boots and trendy skinny jeans are in plain sight.
Rumors are swirling around the big event, which is said to incorporate traditional Indian elements into the ceremony. Celebrity guests reportedly include "Little Britain" star David Walliams and wife Lara Stone, with Rihanna serving as her maid of honor.
Monday, October 18, 2010
Scream" queen Neve Campbell -- who lives in London and hasn't been spotted at a star-studded event in years -- made a triumphant return to the spotlight in a sparkling mini and strappy heels at Scream 2010, Spike TV's annual award show which honors the best in horror, sci-fi, and fantasy.
He remains coy on the topic of dating, but Kim Kardashian’s new man, Michael Copon, is speaking out about the stunning reality starlet to In Touch. “She’s very endearing. She’s an amazing, sweet girl,” Michael gushed at the MNG by Mango at JCPenney launch in New York on October 12. The Hawaii Five-0 actor, who In Touch exclusively revealed shared a romantic dinner with Kim at Big Apple restaurant Serendipity 3 last week, isn’t only taken with the TV star/designer/businesswoman’s down-to-earth demeanor, but is impressed with her work ethic as well. “She's ambitious and goes after what she wants," Michael added. "She's an independent woman doing her thing! I respect that." The pair met when she guest-starred on his show, Beyond the Break, in 2009. With Kim filming Kourtney and Kim Take New York on the East Coast, their relationship may soon become long-distance — Michael says he’s leaving for Los Angeles later this week!
Jessica Simpson Declares: I'm in Love! I hope it works out!
"I didn't expect to go as far as I did!" the Weight Watchers weight-loss star says of dropping the pounds. "I go into the store and they try to put me in 4s and 6s and I'm like, 'Who are you trying to talk to?'" says the former size 16 singer. "My mind hasn't caught up yet." I NEED TO DO THIS!
Matriarch Angelina Jolie sticks to luxe basics, like her olive green Gerard Darel slicker, while traveling with her brood from L.A. to London – and back again!
There's a perfect ten on the front nine! Justin Timberlake takes in the action from a cushy seat on the green at the Las Vegas Fiji Water Youth Clinic on Sunday.
Friday, October 15, 2010
Fashion Friday's: Lets Vogue! Take a look at some must have items to have this winter! Go find something similar for less.
24-karat gold-plated razor blade cuff, $600
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Satin-trimmed tuxedo suit, $3,040
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Palais platform leather pumps, $675
Silk-tulle sequined waistcoat, $500
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
My marriage needs help. I find myself resentful when I think about the things in my marriage I want to change but in over 10 years have gotten worse.
My husband is unaffectionate. It never used to be this bad but early on it wasn't what I thought it should have been. I thought I could help him with his "ways". (His family seems to be much the same.) I came from a very affectionate family so this has really been a struggle for me. He kisses me each day hello and goodbye. About the same way I kiss my child when it's time to go to school. It's never in a romantic or passionate way.
Sex is virtually nonexistent. Sometimes we go for months without it. But the average is once every month or two. I am basically the maid, cook, nanny and have no real feeling of intimacy or passion anymore.
It's a very isolating feeling to live with someone who feels more like a roommate than a lover/spouse. I have gained weight and can't seem to feel worthy of taking care of myself because I seem to be the one taking care of everything else. He is not happy with my weight and that may be the problem but to me that is a superficial approach to love from a husband.
I know what a painful thing this is. This will eventually destroy the marriage. So this is the time for you to step up to the plate and put this issue in front of him, before it is too late and you give up.
Many couples end up in dullness because they have consistently avoided something -- like conflict, for instance -- or they have chosen to go numb rather than confront discomfort. You suffer from avoided issues, or the lack of good communication tools to use to address them. Instead, you are trying to keep things comfortable, probably because each of you simply does not know how to get through the impasse.
At minimum get yourself some good self-help books and read them. You are now in the dark as to what to do.
We offer a set of powerful, to-the-point books on our website, if you are interested in some specific directions for taking a path like I did.
Based on over 20 years of working with couples to heal their relationships, I have written an e-Book you can download off our website. It offers step-by-step tools and strategies:
• Learn how to change patterns that damage love.
• Heal and overcome old baggage that holds you back today.
• Improve communication to start addressing these issues instead of avoiding them.
• Work through and soothe resentment and learn tools to help you overcome your fear and resistance.
• Create a powerful shared vision for overcoming these problems and building solid trust in doing so.
You can get the same material in my printed book: Relationship Tools for Positive Change
For yourself, it is time for you to take care of yourself. Start eating better and exercizing. Do this not for him at all. Do it for yourself. Why? Because you will inherently feel better. That you owe yourself. Also, open up with others. You may have isolated yourself too much inside this relationship, and that could be a big factor in keeping the marriage stuck in the mud. Find support of friends. Do fun things with friends. Consider telephone coaching if local help is not available. Find happiness for yourself first and foremost, by doing things that open you to having more pleasure and fun without him. Take a class. Do anything. Get moving here! Read the self-help books for yourself, regardless if he is interested or afraid to be interested.
If he is interested, then relationship coaching by phone would be very useful.
You might also suggest the following books to read (both of you read these). One is called Passionate Marriage. The other is Resurrecting Sex. These will directly address the sexual side of things, using a model of relationship work identical to ours in the book above. These books, since they are about sex, however, will be more confrontational and scary, especially to him. He may avoid them. My book is far easier to read and apply right away, and could be a better first step to get the two of you to decide to work on things.
If you want any further analysis of the situation, you might also consider looking at what each of your personality types are to see how that is affecting your ability to move through this marriage-killing obstacle.
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Another shocking news:Three years after Christina Aguilera bragged to Ellen DeGeneres that she and music exec Jordan Bratman enjoyed "naked Sundays" to keep their marriage hot, things had apparently cooled off, with a source telling PEOPLE, "Yes they are separated. Right now they're just trying to figure things out." The couple, who welcomed son Max in 2008, were often criticized for their social life outside parenthood, with Aguilera rebuffing skeptics saying, "If I want to go out and have a mommy-daddy night with my husband, I am more than allowed to do that."
Teen queen Selena Gomez has an ear for style, rocking her favorite sparkling Melinda Maria "Gwyneth" hoops at press events in both London and N.Y.C.
Kim again: Kim and Kourtney Take New York hasn't even aired yet and Kim Kardashian is already experiencing drama in the Big Apple.
Kardashian, 29, took to her blog Friday to explain a wild night with her sisters Khloe, 26, and Kourtney, 31, and Kourtney's boyfriend Scott Disick that left Kardashian with another woman's drink on her face.
"I'm totally fine, guys," Kardashian writes on her blog. "I want to address this because everyone has been asking me if I'm ok after the bar fight last night."
Facing reports of marital trouble, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher jetted off to Israel for what the actor describes as a spiritual journey.
"Sharing Love & Light while in Israel," Kutcher Tweeted on Saturday night, hours after the pair left from Los Angeles International Airport. "Asking 4 the energy 2 forge bonds with our similarities & find compromise in our differences."
But is Kutcher referring to something other than marital relations? A source close to the couple says the actor is speaking at a conference in Israel. "They are not in Israel to renew vows," the source says
Must See: It was a family affair on the red carpet at the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills series premiere party at Trousdale in West Hollywood on Monday. Along with their mom Kathy Hilton, sisters Paris and Nicky Hilton walked the carpet in support of their aunts Kim and Kyle Richards who are both cast members on the show.
Courteney and David confirmed the separation first to OK! yesterday, a split that was apparently long time coming.
“They were trying to wait for the timing to be right [to announce the split],” reveals an insider. “They haven’t lived together for a while, even while filming Scream they didn’t sleep in the same room.” I hope they can work it out!
Kim looks put together and stunning wherever she goes, but the reality star proved on Saturday Oct. 9 that she can even bowl while looking chic in Louboutin pumps.
Christina Milian stepped out into the L.A. sunshine on Thursday with her beautiful baby girl Violet. The ladies made their way out Café Med in style after enjoying a girls day out together. It looks like Christina is recovering just fine from her recent split with Violet’s dad, The-Dream, and focusing on spending some quality time with her incredibly adorable daughter. It was all smiles for Christina!
After working on her latest video on Manhattan's Lower East Side, a flame-haired Rihanna joined former Pussy Cat Dolls member Melody Thornton for Drake's post-concert party at Greenhouse.
WHAT SHE WORE
The Nikita star attended the New York Comic Con in a tailored coat over a knit dress.
WHY WE LOVE IT
Maggie Q generated some serious heat in a sexy illusion lace design. She topped the leg-baring mini with a masculine-inspired overcoat—even the hottest beauties get cold!
Monday, October 11, 2010
Robin Thicke & Paula Patton
Will Smith & Jada Pinkett
Tia Mowry & Cory Hardrict
Ashton Kutcher & Demi Moore
Brad Pitt & Angelina Jolie
Tom Cruise & Katie Holmes
Victoria & David Beckham
Kimora Lee & Dijimon Hounsou
Nick Cannon & Mariah Carey
Khloe Kardashian & Lamar Odom
Friday, October 8, 2010
Born: 19 August 1883
Birthplace: Saumur, France
Died: 10 January 1971
Best Known As: The designer who created the "little black dress"
Name at birth: Gabrielle Bonheur Chanel
Designer Coco Chanel gave the world the little black dress, Chanel No. 5 perfume, and the revolutionary notion that style could be both classic and casual. Coco -- a nickname meaning "little pet" -- was raised in an orphanage, where she learned to sew. In 1910 she began selling hats from her own shop, and by the 1920s her fashion business had expanded to include a couture house, her own textile factory and a line of perfumes that included the famous No. 5. Chanel took women's fashions away from stiff corsets and introduced casual, practical clothing that borrowed fabrics and attitudes from men's fashion. She was the first to introduce black as a fashion color; her versatile, semi-formal "little black dress" became a Chanel trademark and an enduring fashion standard. During and after World War II Chanel's popularity waned, and her love affair with a Nazi officer sent her into a form of self-imposed exile in Switzerland for nearly 15 years. She made a comeback in 1954 and her designs became some of the most popular in the western world, especially in the United States. After her death the Coco Chanel Company was directed by designer Karl Lagerfeld.
I love her and respect this lady alot and her business sense! If you have any questions or want to buy some of her fashions please go to http://www.chanel.com/.
Thursday, October 7, 2010
When it comes to power, cultural impact means as much as money and political influence.
Forbes' power lists are synonymous with moguls and movie stars, heads of state and captains of business. One look at the 2010 World's 100 Most Powerful Women list and it is clear that we've come up with a new ranking of the female power elite that reflects the New Order of now.
When we set out to identify this year's list, we decided it was time to look up and out into the broader culture. Our assessment is based less on traditional titles and roles and more on creative influence and entrepreneurship. These power women have built distinctive companies and brands and championed weighty causes, sometimes through unconventional means; in other cases they have broken through gender barriers.
In Pictures: The World’s 100 Most Powerful Women
Click here to see the full list of The World’s 100 Most Powerful Women
We divided our power women candidates into four groups: politics, business, media and lifestyle (that is, entertainment, sports and fashion). We ranked the women in each group, and then group against group. Not easy, but that's today's reality: an unpredictable, diverse mash-up of hard power (currencies and constitutions) and dynamic power (audience and audacity).
Why else would Lady Gaga (No. 7) and Ellen DeGeneres (No. 10) share top 10 billing with Michelle Obama (No. 1), Irene Rosenfeld, CEO of Kraft Foods ( KFT - news - people ) (No. 2), Secretary of State Hillary Clinton (No. 5) and Indra Nooyi of PepsiCo ( PEP - news - people ) (No. 6)? If anything, it's inspiring.
We included many heads of state and hopeful candidates, but we also have queenmakers who don't hold office, first ladies of various sorts, Surpreme Court justices and cultural icons, bankers and bestselling authors. We rely on these women for, yes, managing our money, creating paychecks and governing at home and on the international stage, but also what we eat, download, talk about around the dinner table and the causes we support. What we think and how we act.
At the top of our list, First Lady Michelle Obama is a true change-maker since taking lodge in the White House in 2008. The first African-American in the post, she's changed the face of the office (literally), and with consistently high approval ratings, she's given a new generation of girls and women around the world a role model. A former private attorney and public servant in Chicago, her interest in working with young people and advocating for healthy eating, among other issues, is evidenced by her Let's Move! campaign, which aims to solve the epidemic of childhood obesity within a generation.
Power women are connected, each one leveraging the power of the next. As a result of Let's Move!, for example, major food and drink manufacturers (including Rosenfeld's Kraft Foods and Nooyi's PepsiCo) have pledged to cut 1.5 trillion calories from their products by 2015 through new products, recipes and reduced portion sizes. At the Clinton Global Initiative (CGI) last month, Secretary of State Clinton led a plenary session on empowering women and girls, a new CGI action area, and attended by Katie Couric (No. 22), Queen Rania Al Abdullah of Jordan (No. 76) and Liberian President Ellen Johnson Sirleaf (No. 86).
Back to how Nooyi and talk show host DeGeneres landed together among the top 10 most powerful women in the world? While Nooyi helms PepsiCo, which has revenues of $43 billion annually and a portfolio of brands that include Tropicana, Frito Lay and Gatorade, DeGeneres directly connects with 3 million viewers daily weekdays through her talk show. And that's just one hour of her day.
Off-camera, the out-and-proud DeGeneres spreads her message to more than 5 million Twitter followers, notably bringing national attention to a gay teen's fight for same-sex prom dates last spring. Her high-profile, high-energy personality--as a television host, CoverGirl model and former judge of American Idol--has made LGBT issues more than mainstream. She's instilled a sense of glee and attractiveness to it all.
Traditionally, women's lists are heavily salted with the language of "firsts." First woman CEO. First woman on the Supreme Court. First female president. To be sure, there are firsts on this list: Nancy Pelosi is the first female Speaker of the House, while race car driver Danica Patrick is the first (and only) woman to have won an IndyCar series. With the impending launch of OWN, Oprah Winfrey is the first woman to own her own cable network and Julia Gillard and Johnson Sirleaf are currently the first female prime minister of Australia and Africa's first female president, respectively.
First females make for good copy, but the real headline is that packs have emerged. Three women sit on the Supreme Court, marking an unprecedented tipping point for change. This year Diane Sawyer joined Couric as a female nightly solo news anchor, with Rachel Maddow and Christiane Amanpour as compats. Gillard is among 10 female heads of state on this year's rankings. From Singapore to Silicon Valley, 25 women on the list hold CEO titles.
Ripening for political leaders, generally, comes at the 50s and 60s, while business leaders peak in their 40s and 50s. Media and lifestyle power women seem to come of age in their 20s and 30s. But there are notable exceptions and crossover. Madonna and Arianna Huffington have exceptional staying power, while Sarah Palin and Facebook's Sheryl Sandberg are early bloomers.
Redefining the idea of power as influence is a challenging feat, particularly hard in that we looked at the world in all of its complexities to find the women who wield their importance in four distilled spheres to create change. Add the pace of the year 2010--the speed at which we consume and communicate--and the task becomes even greater.
What we've found is that power, hard or dynamic, can be fleeting. One million or so Twitter followers today can be kissed goodbye as quickly as a company can go bankrupt or a government overthrown. And so we consider this list a frozen moment in time.
We invite you to visit forbes.com/woman where the list will live, breathe and be shaped and reshaped in months to come.
Once you have done some soul-searching to figure out what you want in a future husband, it's time to actively search for Mr. Right. "Instead of viewing yourself as a hunter bounding toward the man of your dreams, shift your point of view and think of yourself as a magnet pulling him to you," Dr. Phil suggests. The best way to do this is with a strategy.
In Chapter Seven of his book Love Smart: Find the One You Want — Fix the One You Got, Dr. Phil offers the following tips for going out and finding Mr. Right.
Leave the house.
"The one" isn't going to come knocking on your door or appear on your couch. You have to get in the game and put yourself out there. Make an effort to see and be seen by as many qualified new guys as possible. "Dating is a numbers game," Dr. Phil says. "The more men you meet, the more likely you will find your special someone."
Visit target-rich environments.
In Chapter two you created a sketch of the The Character of Him. Think about where this type of guy would hang out — a target-rich environment — and go there. Some places Dr. Phil suggest going are: Church or temple, batting cages, sporting events, bars, music festivals, art galleries, parks, philanthropic group events, bookstores, coffee shops and hardware stores.
Get out of your comfort zone.
Vary the places you go to meet men so you can see new faces. "By now you should realize that your ordinary hangout isn't the place to meet extraordinary men," says Dr. Phil. Explore your passions and let these things become your social life. "Go to places you'd enjoy even if you weren't looking for the love of your life." This way, you will meet someone who has something in common with you. "As long as you're really into what you're doing, you're going to give off a cool, passionate vibe that makes you seem like the catch of the day," Dr. Phil says.
Mix up the people you go out with.
Don't always hang out with a pack of girlfriends — but for safety reasons, never go out alone either. "Guys are less likely to come over if they feel they've got an audience," Dr. Phil warns. "They don't want to get rejected in front of four or five staring women." Plus, if you are with a lot of friends, it's too easy not to meet new people.
It's also important to vary the people you go out with. "Often, different people bring out different aspects of our personalities," Dr. Phil shares. Going out with married friends and guy friends can make it seem like you are taken or don't want to be approached.
Have a strategy for meeting men at these new places.
This will ensure that you are not flustered when you see a man you want to approach. "If you know what to reveal about yourself or how to start the conversation, you'll come off confident and self-assured," Dr. Phil explains. You won't have to think of a plan while under pressure.
Learn about your audience.
Try to find out what the people you are going to be around are interested in. If you know that they are into something specific, you can brush up on some basics about that topic. You will then have something to talk about with them — comments to offer and questions to ask. "This isn't being fake. It's just a way to jump-start a conversation or feel comfortable taking part in one," Dr. Phil says.
Be prepared with your opening questions.
Usually the hardest part of meeting someone new is getting the conversation rolling. "One of the most important things I can tell you is that people truly love to be the focus of attention," Dr. Phil says. Come up with five to 10 questions to ask a man, and give him the attention he wants. It's important to listen to the answers when he is talking and ask follow-up questions. If you have these questions ready before you meet him, you won't feel pressure to think of a conversation topic, and you'll feel confident.
Here are some examples of basic questions to ask within the first 10 minutes of your encounter.
Do you love what you do for a living, or work to pay the bills?
What's your favorite book?
What do you like to do in your free time?
Which family member are you closest to?
What's the best vacation you've ever been on?
The deserted island questions:
If you were stranded on a deserted island, and you could have only three of your most prized possessions with you — and sunscreen — what or who would you have?
If you could plan a dinner party, who (alive or dead) would you invite to it?
If you could keep only one of your five senses, which one would it be and why?
If you won $10 million in the lottery, what would you do with the money?
Use your star power.
"The more generous you are about making other people feel like stars, the more star quality you yourself will possess," Dr. Phil says. Making people feel special is as easy as asking questions and really listening to the answers. "If everyone else in the room is saying, 'Me, me, me,' and you're saying, 'You, you, you,' you're the one who's going to get noticed."
Know your sound bite.
In Chapter five, Dr. Phil teaches women how to create their sound bite — an exciting description of themselves, focusing on their strongest attributes, using 20 words or less. Be prepared with a list of four or five things that you think people should know about you. Be positive and upbeat. Talking about things with pride, passion and optimism will draw others toward you.
Come up with your fillers.
Define four or five things you can talk about with anyone, anywhere. Be comfortable with the topics, and know them inside and out. "These can be saviors when you don't know what to say or when you hit a lull in conversation," Dr. Phil says. Some ideas of fillers are your hobbies, current events or vacation spots. Also, stay current on the latest news.
Act the part.
"What you say is only a portion of what attracts people to you," Dr. Phil explains. "The other part is all the nonverbal actions and mannerisms that speak volumes." To be successful in dating, you must exude confidence — in everything from your internal dialogue to the clothes you wear.
"Men fall in love with their eyes, so looking your best is a must," Dr. Phil suggests. But don't wear anything that you aren't comfortable in. It is also important to be aware of your body language. "No matter how confidently you're chatting away, if your body language says you're insecure, that's how you'll be perceived." Try not to twirl your hair or fidget, and don't stand too close or too far away from him. Make sure your body language is consistent with the image you want to present. Another important factor to consider is your placement in a room. You don't want to be huddled in a corner, but rather, try being in a heavily trafficked area where you will come in contact with many people.
Immerse yourself in conversation.
Stay focused and engaged by making eye contact. "There is something very disarming about a woman who will look you in the eye, hold a handshake a little longer, touch your arm to underscore a point she's making, or use your name midway through the conversation," Dr. Phil says. "If the man you're talking to feels accepted and liked by you, he is much more apt to like you in return." Realize that your voice and speech also have an effect.
Good Luck and Go get your Man!
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