Friday, February 21, 2014

50 things that girls should know to be successful.

By: Denise Young, ED.S

When I was little girl my dad showed me how to change a tire, take care of my first car along with other things. He also talk to me about how I should know growing up like how to act, treat friends and how to conduct myself around people. Most girls in 2014 do not have a father or father figure and some do but the lack of mentors, fathers and parents that are educating their children about certain facts are decreasing. I have taken in consideration that most people are just trying to put food on the table and not really thinking about anything else and I get that 100 %. This conservation sparked some deep thoughts while talking to my daughter and talking to other teens in the Georgia. Then I realized that most girls do not know how to do a lot of things or know a percentage of information that they need to know to survive. I have been counseling for years and most adults do not have the skills to be successful in life. Then I thought about the poverty level and the rich and wealthy population.  The lack of knowledge is the key right? Or is it taking some information and running with it and applying it. This got me to thinking so I wanted to do a blog entry on top things I think girls should know. Now this list is genetic and others things should be added but this is start right? Take a look and go over the list with your girls.

She should be able to:

Absolute Essentials

·         Breath enough to scream and fight back if attacked.  Being able to defend herself successfully is better, but if she can’t breathe, she can’t put up any resistance at all.  Sometimes even mere verbal resistance is enough to deter an attacker.  Everyone should know how to defend herself.

·         Perform CPR.

·         Say “no” convincingly.

·         Drive both a stick shift and an automatic.

·         Obtain birth control and use it effectively.

·         Think through the possible consequences of her actions, and make decisions based on projected consequences rather than short-duration but instant gratification.

·         Balance a checkbook.

·         Sew on a button.

·         Know her own mind, and be able to spot when she is lying to herself.

·         Rent an apartment (having the skills to do so, not necessarily the funds).

·         Prepare a 1040 EZ tax form.

·         Change a tire.

·         Jump start a car.

·         Question what she’s told, and see the pros and cons of several points of view on each matter.

·         Get a loan and understand the different types of interest.

·         Disagree with someone – politely, but not immediately assuming that their opinions count more or less than hers.

·         Read a map.

Health & Safety

·         Be aware of her surroundings, and be conscious of which situations to avoid and where to step in to de-escalate a situation.

·         Clean and bandage a minor injury/see blood without fainting or losing the ability to deal with the situation appropriately.

·         Remain rational during a crisis – from surprise visitors to a major natural disaster.  Standing still and screaming her head off is not likely to help anyone, and may cause further chaos and danger.

·         Swim well enough to save herself if she falls in water.

Responsibility for Oneself

·         Cook a nourishing meal.

·         Search the web for information.

·         Use a word processor.

·         Clean house well enough to prevent bug infestations.

·         Go to a movie or the theater alone.

·         Iron clothing.

Responsibility to Others

·         Change a diaper.

·         Keep a child, any age, entertained for at least 10 minutes.

·         Read to a child and/or work on their homework with them.

·         Clean a cat box at least twice a week.

Knowledge is Power

·         Think critically when listening to speeches and commercials and when reading literature of any kind to determine the biases and basic assumptions made by the author.

·         Name the governor of her state and list at least one or two issues up for debate in government which may affect her life.

·         Read a credit report.

·         Know the definitions of a deduction, exemption, and tax credit.

·         Form her own opinion based on verified facts (no Limbaughisms) and personal experience. If she doesn’t have the facts, she should have an idea of how to obtain them. Hearsay and blind hatred are not the basis for good decisions.

·         Speak at least one foreign language well enough to ask for and receive instructions, order and pay for a meal, and make arrangements for travel and accommodation.

·         Have the self possession to know when you need help and when you don’t.

Do It Yourself – or know enough so you don’t play the fool

·         Tie a square knot.

·         Make travel plans and reservations.

·         Check oil and radiator fluid levels and fill them, if necessary.

·         Change the oil, air filter, hoses, fan belts, headlights, and maybe even brakes of her car.

·         Know the basic parts and workings of her car - oil, brakes, radiator, engine, transmission, spark plugs (or lack thereof), filter, headlights, etc.  When the mechanic tells her with horror that there’s a lot of dust in her brakes, she should be able to stare at him solidly and inform him that friction brakes form lots of dust as part of their routine operation.

·         Understand the terms RAM, ROM, CPU, hard drive, floppy drive, and memory.

·         Buy a house (having the skills to do so, not necessarily the funds).

·         Do basic household repairs, such as minor fixes to the sink, toilet, change the furnace air filter, etc.

·         Paint a room (after filling in any nail holes).

·         Use drills, hammers, saws, wrenches, etc. safely and appropriately.

·         Start and use a lawn mower.

·         Put together a “some assembly required” piece of furniture.

If you have any questions or

Kenya Moore and Saving our Daughters

February 21, 2014 11:00 AM by Stephanie Gustafson

It looks like Kenya Moore’s efforts to prove that she donated the proceeds of her charity ball to Saving Our Daughters have proven successful. Just a few days after representatives for the organization accused the Real Housewives of Atlanta star of failing to pony up her event’s proceeds, the controversial statement disappeared from the Saving Our Daughters website.

Kenya Moore may finally be able to claim victory in the great RHOA charity debacle of 2014. Just a few days after the reality star told Twitter followers that she possessed plenty of evidence regarding her recent contributions, Saving Our Daughters decided to withdraw an earlier statement that accused her of failing to contribute. The group also removed all Twitter links leading to the page that formerly displayed the defamatory statement, suggesting that its leaders have finally conceded defeat.
This move took place shortly after several of Kenya’s followers attacked the organization for being, as they claimed, less than legitimate. These fans had followed the drama closely, perking up when B Scott accused Saving Our Daughters of lacking charity status. One fan took to Facebook to question the organization about the issue, asking, “I’ve never heard anything negative about this organization until now, is this false? A representative from Saving Our Daughters responded, “We are a non-profit and restructuring our 501 c-3 after the passing of the Founder’s Daughter due to brain cancer.” B. Scott points out that this sad death took place in 2011, which means that the supposed charity should have had more than enough to complete its restructuring process.
We’re not sure what’s going on with Saving Our Daughters, but we’re glad to see that Kenya Moore has come away from the drama unscathed. Do you agree? Sound off in the comments section below!

The Most Breathtaking Oscars Gowns

Marilyn Monroe - Oscars Best

When you think of gowns for the award shows, what do you think about? How do you image the best dress to be on the red carpet. Instyle Magazine has given us some idea and clue of the best dressed that they feel has made an impression over the years during the Oscars. In the picture above shows Marilyn Monroe.

Marilyn Monroe, 1951

Marilyn Monroe selected a cloud of black tulle from the 20th Century Fox wardrobe department for the 23rd Annual Academy Awards.

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5 Girly Things Guys Really Like

I was working out at my boxing gym recently when my trainer stopped shouting at us and began swaying back and forth to a song that had just come on the radio. He was momentarily lost in the music, unaware of his surroundings and his students pounding away on the heavy bags. Such is the power of Fergie's "Big Girls Don't Cry." It's fair to guess that a 40-something former middleweight with a Philadelphia Flyers tattoo on his neck was not the demographic Fergie had in mind when she recorded that song. I'm truly not busting on the guy, in part because he has a left hook that could knock out a mule (or a writer for REDBOOK), but mostly because I, too, dig on many things that were created with women in mind. All guys do. I don't care how tough or macho your man is; he's secretly exfoliating with your loofah, or he's listening to your Lana Del Rey albums on the sly, or he's wearing your clothing (don't judge-I can explain). It's good and healthy for us dudes to get in touch with our feminine side, and thanks to you, we can. I will now shed the last vestiges of my masculine pride and give you some real-life examples of what I'm talking about.
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1. Your wardrobe--well, some of it
I love wearing women's T-shirts. Your T-shirts are the bomb. I learned this during a moment of necessity: I hadn't done laundry in a while and I got caught short when someone came to the door, so I threw on a University of Texas women's T-shirt belonging to my wife, Karel. It was a little snug, but, wow, it felt like I was being hugged all over by a fuzzy Labrador puppy. Men's T-shirts, by contrast, feel like wearing a layer of sandpaper. In order to get a guy's T-shirt to the standard level of softness and comfort that a woman's T-shirt starts with, you have to work out in it for three weeks straight, leave it outdoors through an entire rainy season, and wash it 65 times. Then you're rewarded with a month of happy wearing before it falls apart. And fine, I'm just gonna admit that I find the cut of a women's XL more flattering--not too baggy, but not too International Male catalog, either. I have learned not to buy T-shirts with cap sleeves, though. Cap sleeves look weird on me.

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2. The movies and shows meant to make you cry
From Steel Magnolias to Waiting to Exhale to The Notebook, we've all sat with a girlfriend or wife through a movie we quietly enjoyed, even if we felt strange about it later. Maybe your man silently identifies with Patrick Swayze's misunderstood outsider with an insatiable need to gyrate in Dirty Dancing, or he's really affected by Mandy Moore's role in A Walk to Remember. She saved that bad boy from himself-and she was really sick, you guys! Sometimes a chick flick comes along and kicks us right in the "feel zone" (or heart, as some people refer to it), allowing us to access emotions that are usually off-limits. During a viewing of, say, Terms of Endearment, it's cathartic to watch Debra Winger and Shirley MacLaine articulate their relationship in ways that my mom and I never will. So what if I identify with Debra Winger? All I know is I'll never be her good-for-nothing husband, Flap, beautifully portrayed by Jeff Daniels.

3. Bath products that don't smell like an Irish spring

Dudes love to sample whatever you've got stashed away in your shower caddy. I might pull out a body wash and think, Yes! I've always wanted to smell like a rain forest! Rain forests apparently smell fruity. I won't actively purchase these products--I wouldn't even know where to find them--but when I was single, the greatest thing about spending the night at a woman's house (okay, the second greatest thing) was waking up the next morning and trying all the products she had in her bathroom. Now that I'm married, Karel buys multiples of whatever crazy product she's trying out, because she knows if she doesn't, I'll use it all. This month it's something called "shea butter." I think it's for hippies, but I don't care.

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4. Food not made of meat
In American culture, we like to try to assign different foods and drinks to men and women. Women eat salads and sushi! Men eat burgers and bacon! Women drink cocktails with fruit and umbrellas; men drink beer and bourbon. I like liquor and steak as much as the next guy, but on the advice of my doctor, I've learned to take pleasure in a finely crafted salad as well--especially when I grow the vegetables. It feels like I'm providing for my family. I imagine this is what it feels like to throw an animal on the table after a hunt, except it's an animal made of produce. Actually, a lot of guys like green stuff more than society gives us credit for, and if you add bacon and cheese, we like it even better.

5. Your very educational magazines
You can only read Off-Road Magazine so many times before you start looking around for new bathroom entertainment, and a guy could do worse than to pick up his wife's favorite women's mag. I've learned so much from REDBOOK it's not even funny. There's tons of information about money, health, effective ab workouts, and good dinner ideas. Also,
hair-care advice, which I find strangely compelling; maybe it's a bald man's thing. You leave this copy on the back of the toilet and tell me if he doesn't look like he knows what you're talking about when you bring up hair oils later in the week. But if he attempts something unexpected with an ice cube in bed on Friday night, don't blame REDBOOK. He probably found your Cosmo.