Monday, June 25, 2012

Adele heartbreak over her ex gay boyfriend

Adele’s new biography is revealing that her hit album, 21 is about how she got her heart broken by a bisexual boyfriend. According to, Adele: The Biographyreveals that Adele had her heart broken by a boy when she was 18 and the relationship was reportedly doomed by the start.
The book says, “One thing we know Is that it was a first love gone terribly bad. While wise in the ways of the world, she was still a young girl when it came to affairs of the heart. Adele had professed her love and he did the same. She had known he was bisexual but, in the rush of romance, felt they could make it work. Four hours after laying their emotional cards on the table, the boy ran off with one of Adele’s gay friends! ‘Great!’” Adele reportedly said in a moment of candor recalling her devastation. ‘We weren’t even officially going out yet and you’ve cheated on me already!’”
  • Adele said on her official biography website, “‘All the things I wanted from a boyfriend, he was never going to be. I was so jealous and I couldn’t see myself fighting off boy as well as girls.’”

Monday, June 18, 2012




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Rasheeda, Frank Ski, K.Michelle & Karlie Redd backstage LHHA cast members greet the Car & Bike Show crowd.

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LHHA cast with singer Miguel Rasheeda signs autographs. K.Michelle meets a fan.

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LHHA cast interview with V103 jock Sytonnia Thousands packed the GA World Congress Center

V103/HGTV personality Egypt Sherrod Egypt's non-profit, the Egypt Cares Family Foundation, was in the building!

Autographs and smiles!

Brandy vs. Kellie Pickler — Fashion Faceoff: In a $2,600 dress

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We love Fashion faceoff at SBD ! Who do you think whore it better? All I have to say Brandy is giving good face and hair! Read Below

Two songstresses known for their pipes recently showed off their gams when they wore the same figure-fitting bandage-style dress on the red carpet more than two weeks apart. Both singer/actress/reality star Brandy and "American Idol" alum Kellie Pickler chose a pale-pink Herve Leger by Max Azria design with fringe and metal detailing. This gorgeous garment can be yours for the bargain price of just $2,600! But hold off on buying the dress online just yet, because first you need to decide ... who wore it best?!

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Meagan Good Weds......More to her than what you know

By: Denise Young/Deniselmedia@twitter
SBD loves great stories,especially in Hollywood. When I heard about Meagan Good waiting to have sex until she was married,I loved it! Years of teaching sex character ed and sex education this makes my heart melt. Teaching and building self-esteem is so important in young girls and loving yourself is amazing! Read below
DeVon Franklin and Meagan Good arrive for the 35th Anniversary Celebration for Bishop Thomas Dexter 'T.D.' Jakes, Sr. on June 8, 2012 in Dallas, Texas.

Jumping the Broom actress Meagan Good is officially a married woman!
The 30-year-old beauty, who appears on Showtime's Californication, walked down the aisle Saturday with DeVon Franklin in Malibu, Calif., her rep confirms to Us Weekly.

Good was a "gorgeous bride," a source tells Us. "[It was] an enchanting wedding."
Franklin, 33, an executive at Sony Pictures Entertainment who moonlights as a 7th Day Adventist preacher, proposed to his love last March in Los Angeles.

Two months after getting engaged, Good opened up to Complex magazine about the qualities she looks for in her perfect mate.
"It would take someone who is spiritual and loves God. Someone who respects my mind and what I have to offer besides my physical appearance," she told the magazine. "Someone who actually loves other people and is connected to my destiny. This person has to be walking down the same path as I and want the same thing out of life."

Good and Franklin first met six years ago when discussing a film project. They went on their first date after working together on 2011's Jumping the Broom.

Congrats to both and wish them years of happiness!

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Inside Giuliana Rancic's Baby Shower

Bill Rancic and Giuliana Rancic attend the 10th Annual Smile Gala on September 23, 2011 in Beverly Hills, California.

By: Denise Young/Deniselmedia@twitter

We have loved these two since their reality show first hit the air years ago. SBD is so happy to hear that the baby is almost here. Read below

It's a boy!
Expecting their first child via surrogate this summer, Giuliana and Bill Rancic kept their unborn baby's gender a secret until Sunday -- Father's Day -- when they revealed details about their new arrival at a Beverly Hills baby shower.
Feted by 80-100 of their closest family members and friends at the home of Giuliana's friend, Colette, the couple of nearly five years devised a unique way to make their big announcement.
PHOTOS: Giuliana & Bill dish on baby names, celeb playdates and more
"When guests arrived, they had to choose what sex they thought they baby was by picking out a necklace that had a boy or girl pin," a partygoer tells Us Weekly. "The big reveal was really cute. They had a big box with 'G + B, blue or pink, what do you think?' written on it and when they opened the box, a bunch of blue balloons came out and soared into the sky."
VIDEO: Will Baby Rancic be a Fortune 500 CEO or an NFL Quarterback?
Clad in a long yellow dress, mom-to-be Giuliana, 37, mingled with party guests -- including Melissa Rivers and Lisa Ling -- before opening gifts for her son-to-be that included baby clothes, two large stuffed giraffes and an $850 Origami stroller.
"Giuliana could not stop tearing up. She was so emotional and grateful for everything and was the most gracious person ever," one guest told Us. "She couldn't stop thanking everyone from the vendors to her friends and family for being there! She was attached to Bill for most of the party and they just seemed elated."
VIDEO: The couple beam at their baby's latest ultrasound
Noshing on food including mini sliders, mac n' cheese, cupcakes and a cake from Manhattan Beach, Calif. bakery Cupcake Couture, the littlest party guests were also able to honor their dads on the Father's Day holiday thanks to an arts and crafts station the couple set up for kids to make dad a necktie.
PHOTOS: Star moms' best parenting advice
"Bill said this was the best way to celebrate Father's Day and he'd never been happier," a party guest recalled of the proud papa-to-be, 41, who has yet to settle on his son's name.
Continues the insider: "They're the kindest most deserving people and today was really special for them to be able to spend time with their close friends and families and really grasp how important this is for them."

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Let me re-introduce myself: All about the New Nene Leakes


By: Denise Young @Deniselmedia on Twitter


One of my favorite Housewives is no doubt Nene! One of the reasons is her hustle! She has taken this reality show and used this as platform for wealth. Sometimes you have to be loud to get noticed and I do not knock the hustle at all. Mrs. Leakes have moved to another venture which is fashion.

Move over, She by Shereé and Lisa “Closet Freak” Wu-Hartwell aren’t the only ones that have a line of clothing from RHOA. RHOA breakout-turned-Glee guest star NeNe Leakes is launching her own fashion line, EW has confirmed.
Between readying for a fifth season of Housewives and preparing for her role on Ryan Murphy’s fall sitcom The New Normal, Leakes has a partnership with global licensing agency Beanstalk in the works. Though no papers have been signed yet, the company said Leakes hopes to create pieces “designed to empower women to walk into a room and ‘own it’ — like NeNe herself” at this week’s Licensing Expo 2012 Las Vegas.
Beanstalk president and CEO Michael Stone praised Leakes’ “versatility,” “no-nonsense demeanor and entrepreneurial spirit” and said her “multi-faceted personality and aspirational style will translate well into products that will emotionally connect with her fans.”
Leakes follows in the footsteps of fellow reality stars turned fashion designers, including Nicole Richie, Lauren Conrad, and fellow Housewife (from Orange County) Gretchen Rossi. Then again, for every Lauren Conrad, there’s also a Jenni “J-Woww” Farley, whose Filthy Couture struggled to sell despite Farley’s Jersey Shore fame. Indeed, Conrad’s first time striking out as high-end fashion designer, well, struck out.

Beanstalk promoted Leakes’ proposed fashion line as “fashion-forward [and] affordable.” It seems she’s planning to follow in Conrad’s more recent footsteps when her deal with Kohl’s set the stage for her current success as a celebrity entrepreneur. The jury’s still out on her success in fashion, but with a building acting career and a network of contacts (Murphy, Wendy Williams, Ellen DeGeneres), she still has her dream to be the “Queen of TV” as a fallback.

One thing you can say about this girl she is riding this ride well! (You get your money)We at SBD love Nene,why we are all about empowering women! Congrats.

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Gabrielle Union and her man Dwyane Wade love the luxe spa. "We've been going for a couple years and it never, never ceases to amaze me how relaxed and rejuvenated we feel when we leave," Union has raved.
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Sunday, June 17, 2012

Rodney King found dead in swimming pool, police say

King in 2011 (AP/Los Angeles Times)
Rodney King, whose videotaped beating by police in 1991 sparked the L.A. riots, was found dead at his California home on Sunday. He was 47.
Police said King's fiancée discovered him at the bottom of the swimming pool at their Rialto, Calif., home, about 55 miles east of Los Angeles.
Police responded to a call at 5:25 a.m., pulled King out of the pool and attempted CPR, but could not revive him.
King's representative Suzanne Wickman confirmed to his death to KABC-TV.
The cause of death is unknown, but police are investigating it as a drowning. Rialto Police Capt. Randy DeAnda told CNN there were no preliminary signs of foul play.
King was beaten by four white LAPD officers following a DUI stop on March 3, 1991. Footage captured by an amateur videographer showed the officers hitting King 56 times with wooden batons.
"I just got lucky that night to have the cameras on me," King said in April, marking the 20th anniversary of the L.A. riots. "When I saw the tape, I was so happy that it was on tape and then looking at it, it was like I was in another body. I felt like I had died in that one, and was just watching it."
The four officers--Theodore Briseno, Laurence Powell, Timothy Wind and Sgt. Stacey Koon--were acquitted of criminal charges, sparking the riots that left 55 people dead. (Koon and Powell were later found guilty of federal civil rights charges and sentenced to 30 months in prison.)
"It felt like Armageddon," King said of the acquittal. "It felt like the end of the world. I was hurt. I was past upset."
"I was raised not to be violent, and not to be rioting and carrying on like a wild man," he added, "but at the same time, there was a side of me saying, 'What else can you do?' I didn't agree with it, but I understood."
During the five-day riots--marked by widespread looting, arson and racially-charged beatings throughout South Central L.A.--King made his famous public plea for peace: "People, I just want to say, can we all get along? Can we get along?"
"Through all that he had gone through with his beating and personal demons, he was never one to not call for reconciliation and for his people to overcome and forgive," the Rev. Al Sharpton said in a statement on Sunday.
King had long struggled with alcohol abuse. According to KABC, he was arrested or detained by police at least a dozen times on charges ranging from DUI to domestic violence.
In 2011--the 20th anniversary of his beating--King was arrested in California on suspicion of DUI.


First time Dad...JayZ


What was left of Jay-Z's reputation as a tough guy rapper disappeared upon the arrival of his daughter Blue Ivy on January 7. The 42-year-old hip-hop star, who is currently touring with Kanye West, released a tribute song to his daughter just two days after she was born. In it, the little baby's soft cry can be heard while Jay-Z raps, "The most beautifulest thing in this world/Is Daddy's little gir l… Words can't describe what I'm feeling for Words can't describe what I'm feeling for real/Baby, I paint the sky blue/My greatest creation was you." In May, Billboard asked Jay-Z, who has been married to Beyonce since 2008, when he would be making new music, to which he replied: "I thought I would be more inspired to have all these new feelings to talk about, but I really just want to hang out with my daughter. I want to enjoy this time for what it is."

Shopping Guide: 10 Summer Button-Downs for Now

Around this time of year, our thoughts momentarily turn away from perfect chinos and nice, unstructured sport coats and toward shirts, those foundational blocks of a man’s wardrobe. For summer, let things be a bit looser: Washed cottons help give a somewhat rumpled vibe that can still be work-appropriate, especially on Fridays. And other details — whether button-down collars, contrasting stitching, or even somewhat bold color or pattern — help these more casual shirts seem like anything but an afterthought. With that in mind, here are our ten picks to help you take on the season in the most stylish way possible

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Because Excellent Style Starts With Your Father...

This is Nick Sullivan, the fashion director at Esquire, photographed with his son, Charlie, for our latest fashion portfolio in the magazine. Each image features fathers and sons in the best suits and sportswear of the summer. Don't worry, it's much less sentimental than it sounds. And it all begins in the gallery below…

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18 Essential Fatherhood Experiences Every Man Should Have

Fatherhood--it's more important than ever. More is expected of men, and research shows that guys in are delivering. Fathers have doubled the amount of time they spend with their children since 1995. The stay-at-home-dad is becoming more common. And fathers have even lately been on the receiving end of some good old-fashioned parenting guilt of the type usually aimed at moms. A study published this week (just in time for Father's Day!) in the Personality and Social Psychology Journal indicated that children are more harmed by disengaged and rejecting dads than they are by disengaged and rejecting moms.

Related: Happy Father's Day! Slideshow of his first pics as a dad

In the spirit of celebrating dads for what they're doing right, Yahoo! Shine asked parenting experts, daddy bloggers and even some layman-dads for their thoughts on the formative experiences of fatherhood. The following are the moments to treasure, the things not to miss, and all the other little experiences that turn man into Dad.

Be Terrifed During Labor
Men are unanimous: Watching a woman go through childbirth is a humbling, disorienting, frightening experience. "If it was up to men, I don't think there would be any more babies!" says NBA Player and advocate for fathers Etan Thomas, echoing a common sentiment. "But when you hold your child in your arms for the first time, it's amazing. There are no words." Thomas has just published a book, Fatherhood: Rising to the Ultimate Challenge, that gathers parenting wisdom from public figures like Isaiah Washington, Taye Diggs and Chuck D.

From the scientific side, anthropologist Peter Gray, author with Kermyt Anderson of the just published Fatherhood: Evolution and Human Paternal Behavior, says that "In some societies, it's fatherhood rather than marriage that makes the man," and notes that most cultures have rituals marking the man's acceptance of a newborn child, whether it's signing the birth certificate and having a cigar, or the couvade rituals of societies in the Amazon basin.

Talk Back to a Rude Doctor, Nurse or Tech in the Hospital
There's always someone very early on who likes to make fun of dad for being clueless. Don't let anyone shame you. You're a new dad, but you're still a dad.

Change A Diaper. No, Change Lots of Them
In one of our favorite books about fatherhood, Home Game, the writer
Michael Lewis explores why he didn't feel like much of a dad after the birth of his first child. His conclusion, several years and another kid later, is that to enjoy taking care of children, you have to participate in the daily grind of it. There's no highlights of fatherhood without the hard work of fatherhood. Weird but true: One diaper change is a chore. One thousand diaper changes is a blessing.

Take Paternity Leave (after your wife goes back to work)
You are entitled to 12 weeks unpaid paternity leave if your company is large enough to be covered by the Family & Medical Leave Act, points out Michael Kress, the executive editor at Kress took five weeks, which, he says,"was what we felt we could afford." The time alone with baby is an intense, beautiful experience for dad, and, Kress says, "It made my wife's return to work, always a difficult and emotional transition, much easier, knowing I would be caring for our little one for a few weeks before a sitter became her weekday caregiver."

Install a Car Seat
A man can't breast-feed, but he can take charge of the endless accessories that come with a new baby. These activities are neither fun nor satisfying, but you aren't a dad until you've installed a car seat, collapsed a stroller, lowered a crib mattress, refolded a
baby beach-shade in the blazing sun while keeping a little person from drowning, and correctly set up a Pack N Play.

Be Confused By Children's Clothes
This one's for the wife. She will laugh when she comes home and you've dressed the baby in a bathing suit because you thought it was just a weird onesie, or you've put an older kid in her little sibling's pants, which you mistook for shorts. Laughter keeps the family together!

Stay Home Sick With Your KidDadWagon writer Nathan Thornburgh, who has also just kicked off "DadWagon Presents" an NYC-based reading series for paternity lit, says: "The rhythm of a household, particularly if the kids are in school and both parents work, can feel very... structured. Either you're trying to get them out the door in the morning, or hustling them through dinner and into bedtime. But staying home with a sick kid, though it can be hard to arrange with work and though it really doesn't sound like fun, can be a great way to bond. Forget hustling, forget routines, just stock up on Tylenol and a few good board games and enjoy some unscheduled parenting time. Bonus: ice cream."

Eat Something Weird
"As a parent you're so often trying to convince your kids to try new foods," says DadWagon's Thornburgh, "it's actually a great experience for you to try out something new at the same time as them." His recommendation, not for the faint of heart, is
Uighur cuisine from Western China, which, he says offers dishes like "'tingy lamb face.'"'
Braid Your Daughter's Hair

We heard endless variations on men delighting in doing girlie things with their little girls. One recommended that dads take their daughters to the nail salon. Another said that braiding hair is "one of those feminine crafts that somehow oddly affirms one's masculinity, like knowing how to sew a button back on your trousers."
Conquer Fears (Yours or Theirs)

There's nothing quite like the experience of overcoming your own fear-or pretending to-in order to keep your kids from being afraid. Calmly plucking a gross, hairy bug off a toddler's face is a milestone of adulthood. As is laying groundwork so your kid won't be scared by things you were scared of as a child. One dad gave the example of prepping his child for the loud sound of the puck slamming into the barrier at a hockey game.

Do What They Want
One of my favorite sights in the world is when my 70-year-old father sits on the sofa patiently watching Disney with my 3-year-old daughter. As a dad, you're going to watch shows and movies you don't want to see, go to parties you don't want to go to and eat dinners that aren't geared for you-but your participation means the world to your children. A variation on this, suggested by Kress, is to occasionally let the kids decide what the whole family does. "One weekend, we allowed our 5-year-old to set the agenda," he says. "She chose the zoo and a favorite restaurant for dinner, and somehow these activities, though not in the least unusual for us, were all the more fun because it was her choice."

Talk to Your Kids

Etan Thomas's favorite thing about being a dad is talking to his kids. "My son is so inquisitive, he'll ask me a million questions and they're so funny to me," he says. "He asked me 'What do people who don't believe in God say after they sneeze?' I'm like, "I have no idea Malcolm!"

Take Your Child to Work
Kress says: "Kids are fascinated by what you do when you're not around. Letting my daughter spend a few hours in the office with me was great fun for me, and made her feel grown up and excited for this special time with daddy. My coworkers loved it, also."

Teach Your Kid to Drive
Apparently, it's universal world-wide: Dads are the ones to coach their children during first spins behind the wheel. This milestone was offered up to Yahoo! Shine by anthropologist Peter Gray's students in Singapore.

Celebrate Graduations and Milestones, Large and Small
"In my family, we make a big deal out of every accomplishment," Etan Thomas says. "It lets your kids know that their parents have their back and their family supports them." This is true of big events like graduations from high school or college, or small things, like the ceremony for a preschooler to move between k-2 and k-3, or a child getting his white belt (the very first one in karate). "I've seen how well children react to positive reinforcement," Thomas says.

Anthropologist Peter Gray notes that children in today's world get much more formal, outside-the-home education than they have in previous societies, and that "fathers may play greater roles and find meaning being involved in a child's transitions through the formal education process."

Walk Your Daughter Down the Aisle
These days, marriage is on the wane worldwide and the daughter has probably left home long before she gets married, but that makes this special moment even more special.

Go On Vacation (Without Paying)
Someday your child will grow up, get a job, realize how much you've done for him or her, and, if they're in a position to do so, start footing the bill for family vacations, dinners and other events. Awesome.

Know You Did Good
In my childhood, when I used to ask my dad what he wanted for Christmas, he'd always say, "A happy family." This once led to shenanigans involving my mom, my brother, the cat and me in a wrapped refrigerator box, and was seen as a harmless quirk of a non-materialistic guy, but now that I'm a parent, I know how true, and profound, his wish was. We're all parents, but we're also children, so let's take this day to say, Thanks, Dad! I love you.

And special thanks to the dads who helped with this research: Etan Thomas, NBA player and author of the new book, Fatherhood: Rising to the Ultimate Challenge; Michael Kress, editor at; Nathan Thornburgh, DadWagon blogger and founder of a new NYC-based reading series on fatherhood, "DadWagon presents," and Peter Gray, author with Kermyt Anderson of Fatherhood: Evolution and Human Paternal Behavior.

Friday, June 15, 2012

We just love Harper Bazaar! Fashion Crazy

Runway Report
Runway Resort Collection 2012!
Street style isn’t a new phenomenon, and the resort season isn’t an addition to a designer’s delivery schedule. But what Derek Blasberg, our editor at large and the man behind the weekly Mr. Blasberg’s Best-Dressed List, saw this week in New York was the creation of resort street style, when fashion editors (and the occasional celebrity, like Anne Hathaway and Rihanna) turn out in their best looks to see what the fashion houses are doing for the half season between the fall and spring collections. And, since resort is fast turning into a fashion week in and of itself, the industry did not disappoint. Derek loved Visionaire’s Cecilia Dean’s 3x1 sailor jeans, legendary Lauren Hutton’s quirky Stella McCartney suit and blogger Hanneli Mustaparta’s unconventional Calvin Klein crop-top ensemble. Not that his eyes were only on the runways in New York. Inspired by resort’s easy-breezy vibes, Derek couldn’t help but pick a few fashion moments from elsewhere in the world, like Beyonce’s yellow shorts-and-jacket combo worn out on the town and the sweet polka-dot Tory Burch dress that Jessica Alba wore recently.

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The Best Dressed: Rihanna in New York, Anne Hathaway in Stella McCartney, Plus More! - Harper's BAZAAR

Are you trying to fix your spouse?

Are you trying to “fix” your honey?

When they met, Kara and Charlie were both unhappily married to other people. Charlie was the lightning bolt that sent Kara to divorce court, expecting her lover would follow. But now, seven years later, Charlie is wracked with guilt — and he’s still waffling about leaving home, while Kara is merely his shoulder to cry on. Why hasn’t he moved to permanently cement their bond?

At a conference, Kara heard me say: “Don’t try to fix someone without that person’s consent.” Deciding to examine her romance, Kara admitted that she had been trying to “fix” Charlie. Now she wondered whether that’s what she had done with all the men she’d ever known, and whether that was the reason for every breakup. She begged me for clarity.

My research finds that our genders vehemently disagree on whom needs fixing and when. These are the six mate-fixing trends I uncovered:

1. At the beginning of a new relationship, a woman thinks that she should redesign her man.
Ted was out of the military for 10 years, but he continued to wear his hair cropped short. Every woman he knew asked him to grow out his locks, but he stood his army ground… until he met her. Ted fell so deeply in love that he agreed to do what no other female could get him to do about his hairstyle. Happily consenting to the makeover, he grew his hair out and was elated when his coworkers complimented his handsome new look. However, Ted’s intimacy issues sent him fleeing from this love of his life. In an act of defiance against all women he thought might try to control him, he quickly cut his hair back into military mode. Moral: The only male you should consider changing is the one you’re diapering.

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2. The redesign work a woman attempts may be interior or exterior in nature.
Kara placed demands on Charlie to stop smoking, dress better, eat healthier, and stop calling his mother so often. His wife at home accepted him for who he was, with all his flaws, and without pressuring him. No wonder Charlie chose to stay married!

3. When a man finds a new love, he wants that woman to remain as she was when they met each other.
Men often tell me the woman they married has let her appearance go. Fred said that his wife had gained so much weight and had become so sloppy that he didn’t want to have sex with her anymore. But since he still loved her, Fred enrolled her in a fat farm. Rather than thanking him, however, she blew her stack for what she considered to be a demeaning act on Fred’s part.

4. A man may deliberately seek a woman he can fix, such as a damsel in financial distress or a lady who’s been emotionally hurt.
Enjoying the role of provider and protector, John immediately elevated himself to the position of savior when he helped Melissa get out of bankruptcy. Melissa, in turn, showed John her love — until she got back on her feet. Then, she began to perceive all the niceties she’d once appreciated as “controlling behavior” instead. John was in shock when she suddenly exited their relationship. As my Gilda-Gram says: “Hear when the music changes, and adapt your dance steps.” No relationship remains the same forever.

5. After a couple has been together for a while, when a woman relays an issue she’s having to her man, he transforms into Mr. Fix-It and tells his lady what to do.
Marge was furious whenever her husband Mel tried to tell her how to solve each office problem she shared with him. Most women just want their partner to lend an ear to listen to her troubles, not a controlling hand.

6. If a long-term relationship hits a speed bump, the woman believes it’s her job to fix the problem herself or to enroll the pair in counseling.
Jane felt disrespected that her boyfriend Jim would not pick up his dirty clothes when lounging at home. She tried to reason with him, but he was adamant that in his domain, he had the right to enjoy his mess. Exasperated, Jane sought me out to intervene. When I asked Jim what the problem was, he said there wasn’t one. I told this couple that we could not resolve an issue unless they both agreed they had one in the first place. I counseled Jane to stop nagging, accept John as he was, or leave. This couple is still together, continuing their drama — which I won’t even try to fix!

Since Kara was at the end of her rope, I assigned her the task of going on an unusual shopping expedition. Her task was to buy a garment that was hanging on a clearance rack marked “as-is.” The garment might have some holes, pulls, or stains, but she would really have to like it — and purchase it despite its imperfections.

Kara landed a designer knit sweater with a few pulls on the bottom that she admitted didn’t matter to her. She said that she really loved the sweater. Now I asked her to follow the same reasoning about Charlie: What did she love about him, as-is? She listed six wonderful traits. Then I asked her to list his flaws, and what she was trying to fix. Her list of Charlie’s flaws surprised her. She wrote: 1) I want him to finally leave his wife; 2) I want to make him more assertive with his boss; 3) I want to get him to become a better lover; 4) I want to make him into a more generous man; 5) I want to get him to participate in some of my hobbies; 6) I want to convince him to start a family with me.

Until she saw this list, Kara did not know she was unhappy with more than just Charlie’s unwillingness to leave his marital home. For six years, she had hidden the man Charlie really was under her personal “Fix-Him” agenda. Now that the real Charlie was in full view, she wondered, “If he actually did leave his wife, would I want him?” Kara realized that instead of trying to fix her lover, it was time for her to fix herself.

Overall, most people don’t want to be fixed because it suggests that you find them to be inadequate. Further, who wants to be smothered by a partner’s pompous and presumptuous directives? Yet, if you’re burning to offer your honey some helpful direction, be sure to also convey the things about him or her that you love. It’s also important to let your partner know that if no changes were made, it would be OK with you. In love, you must preserve your sweetheart’s sense of self, not crush it.

Fixers like Kara are so intent on getting their way that they often miss vital issues about the relationship. People like Ted who are at first willing to be fixed can only be pushed so far. Can you be happy with your honey as-is? If you think you want to do some pruning, before you insult your partner, ask yourself: “What about me really needs to be fixed?”

What was they thinking? No she did not Britney Spears

Britney Spears What Were They Thinking
Earlier this week, Britney Spears found herself in our weekly 2 Hot 2 Handle gallery thanks to the adorable Azzadine Alaia dress and Miu Miu peep-toes she wore to the latest "X Factor" taping in Kansas City, Missouri. But, days later, the pop tart was back to her old ways -- and back in What Were They Thinking?! -- when she didn't have a team of stylists pulling her together. As a result, she popped by a SoCal ice cream shop in this hand-picked

Thursday, June 14, 2012

SDB's Hottest Hollywood Mom's

Hilary Duff and Mike Comrie

Hilary Duff and Mike Comrie

It's a boy for Hilary Duff! The actress and her hockey player husband Mike Comrie welcomed their first child—Luca Cruz Comrie—on March 20th, and Duff took to Twitter to announce her big news. “Tuesday evening, we became proud parents of a healthy 7 pound 6 ounce beautiful boy,” she Tweeted. "He is surrounded by so much love!! Mom and baby are both doing extremely well," she added.

Halle Berry and Nahla's style

Halle Berry and daughter Nahla
Jun 14, 2012 @ 10:30 am
Halle Berry’s daughter Nahla is growing up, and she’s into being a girly girl, much to her mother’s delight. “Thank god she’s very girly!” the Oscar-winning actress told us at the launch of Revlon’s new ColorStay Whipped Crème Makeup ($14 at “She loves makeup and clothes and skin care stuff.” And while the well-dressed tot is on her way to becoming a mini version of her mom, it’s not Berry’s doing. “If I pick out her clothes and say ‘Here’s what we’re going to wear today,’ she says, ‘Nope, we’re not.’ I don’t even try it anymore!” That said, the four-year-old hasn’t quite entered the all-out princess phase. “She’s still a little wild,” Berry said. “She loves Mogli from The Jungle Book. She wants to run around in her underwear and nothing else like Mogli.” So cute!

Chris Brown Injured in Bar Attack, Drake's Rep Denies His Involvement

Chris Brown Injured in Bar Attack, Drake's Rep Denies His Involvement | Chris Brown, Drake
By: Denise Young/ People Magazine
The vibe inside New York City's W.i.P. nightclub on Wednesday night was definitely heated.

According to online reports, Drake was involved in a brawl with
Rihanna's ex Chris Brown Wednesday night at the club. And Brown even Tweeted a photo of his gashed chin, which he later took down.

Drake's rep denies his involvement in the alleged incident, telling PEOPLE in a statement: "Drake did not participate in any wrongdoing of any kind last night at W.i.P. He was on his way out of the club when the altercation began. He did not engage in any activity which resulted in injury to a person or damage to property."

And Brown's rep tells PEOPLE that the R&B star, girlfriend Karrueche Tran and friends "were victims of a brutal attack last night at W.i.P. They sustained several injuries. Chris and his party are cooperating with New York authorities who are pursuing this incident further."

Meanwhile, a source at the club tells PEOPLE that "words were exchanged."

According to the NYPD, five unidentified people were injured in the scuffle, but were treated only for cuts and nothing more serious.

Chris Brown Injured in Bar Attack, Drake's Rep Denies His Involvement| Crime & Courts, Scandals & Feuds, Music News, Chris Brown, Drake, Rihanna, Bar / Club / Lounge
W.i.P. Club in New York

With reporting by Denise Young

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